Our Feelings Are Our Own Responsibility; 9 Empowering Statements

The most important thing that we can do for ourselves and others is this:

Dealing with our own feelings.

I know, it is easier to blame, judge, shame, gossip or to feel like the world is against you, instead of actually dealing with your stuff. I am certainly guilty of it and I am sure you are too.

Learning to manage our own feelings is a responsibility we have, because when we don't, others will have to deal with them.

I read over these statements once in a while.

It helps me to open up and let down my guard once more. Even in moments when I think I am dealing with my stuff; I always become aware of subtle background feelings that I 'forgot' to feel, acknowledge and deal with.

I find these 9 statement about feelings true, empowering and liberating:

1. Having strong feelings doesn't mean that you are right.

2. It is no ones obligation to be validating you.

3. Feeling rejected doesn't mean someone actually rejected you.

4. Feeling hurt doesn't mean someone hurt or traumatised you, it means you feel hurt.

5. Feelings are information about YOU, not about others.

6. You are allowed to feel strong emotions, it doesn't mean anything is wrong with you or another.

7. Disagreement is not an excuse or permission to attack someone.

8. Feelings are NOT meant to be used as tool against others or as defence mechanism.

9. You can only have "Poor little me" feelings when you've forgotten that you are naturally powerful.